Oh, please. You can be the most magnificent, wise, kind parent in the world and your kids can still get into trouble, do drugs, get pregnant, have a bad attitude, get bad grades, or have other problems. Part of it is innate temperament, part of it is parenting, and part of it is the culture that surrounds us.
The famous Christian child psychologist Dr James Dobson warned that a lot of parents think their kid's great behavior is due to their parenting skills when it's actually just the child's nature to be obedient and sweet. Other children have different wiring and are not only more oppositional but more susceptible to the influence of the worst aspects of society. So while I congratulate you on your wonderful girls, their wonderfulness may not be entirely due to you.
Believe me, I felt the same way about my child--that my husband and I were responsible for all that charm, sunshine, and great behavior--until Child #2 came along and we found out how much of this stuff is hard-wired.
Exactly. I have known a number of families with multiple kids, all raised in a consistent nurturing environment. They will tell you that kids are a genetic/temperment crap-shoot, or else there was a mix-up at the hospital.
>>If he was the right kind of parent, he wouldn’t have had this problem.
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>Oh, please. You can be the most magnificent, wise, kind parent in the world and your kids can still get into trouble, do drugs, get pregnant, have a bad attitude, get bad grades, or have other problems.
My theology would affirm this: God, who is perfect, had some kids who rebelled... and in so doing bought into the worst inheritance program ever (sin).