I don’t see why choices of recreation activity and clothing necessarily have anything to do with sexual interest. Limiting people to strict types is very boring and unrealistic. This is an aspect of the legitimate problem the author/subject nearly identified, which is the societal expectation that every female, practically from birth, will be actively seeking overtly sexual attention in the most unsubtle manner, as if there’s really nothing more to life.
Of course, I imagine that’s how some people view life, but I prefer to avoid such people.
All I know is that I like women to act like women and men to act like men. Seems to me it keeps things simpler. I tried to get her to clean out the chicken coop the other day and she said “icky”. Icky!
You don’t get to dress and behave as a boy and then turn into a a girl when it suits you. At least that’s what I told her.