An axiomatic fact of life is the man with the gun makes the rules. One can only hope that in such a situation as you describe that the man with the gun is deciding rightly. Whether he should act or not, is entirely within his own power. We weight the military down with an obligation to our Founding document in the hopes that when necessity requires, he will follow it.
Curtis LeMay is an example of such a thing. At one time he was the most powerful man in the world. He controlled the combined might of the United States Strategic Bomber command and the entire nuclear strike force of the nation. He could have obliterated the soviet union in a weekend, and he many times argued that we should do exactly that. He was vehement about the need to prevent the Russians from ever achieving Parity with us, and how much American bloodshed might be prevented in the future if we would only strike them while we had the advantage.
He passionately and consistently argued that our enemies should not be allowed to obtain Nuclear weapons, and he possessed the power to unilaterally decide this issue for himself. During the Cuban Missle Crises, he begged John Kennedy to let him take out the Russians, he said it would be the last chance to do so at minimal cost in American lives.
Throughout the Administration of three Presidents, he advocated the same thing, and for most of that time it was in his power to implement his plan. (Father of the Japanese bombing effort, and the Berlin Airlift) Yet throughout his entire career, he held fast to his oath, and refused to take the United States into a war he desperately thought we needed, all because of his belief in the legitimacy of our system of government.
However, he did do a few things that absolutely pushed the envelope. He sent armed nuclear bombers flying over soviet cities on a routine basis in the 1950s. He had radar mapped every Russian city on the continent, and he implemented constant American military overflights of Russian territory. Eisenhower's dismay of missing a treaty opportunity with the Russians is a direct result of LeMay's actions regarding American overflights of Russia. Eisenhower did not know we were doing this, and the Russians thought he must be lying.
Anyway, the point is, it is a dangerous thing to tamper with the strings which bind our military to civilian rule. It is not a good idea to put pressure on them. You and Obama need to stop applying this pressure.