Yes you are. You are saying they should accept illegitimacy without challenging it, a direct violation of their oath of service and oath of office. YOU are promoting lawlessness by urging them to violate their oath by ignoring constitutional requirements.
It is not up to the military to determine whether the commander in chief is legitimate or not. It's up to the civilian branches, which have determined him to be legitimate. To have the military contravening the judgement of the civilian branches strikes at the very heart of the constitution.