We think alike in some regards.
Along more peaceful lines - pre-SHTF - I have on FR and other sites emphasized locating the homes of those in power, and not just the politicians and bureaucrats, but the leftist media and the power structure behind the ACLU and other treasonous groups and organizations.
We need to be showing up at THEIR houses - not their offices - to demonstrate and protest whenever they pull their anti-citizenry stunts, just like the SEIU has done, only peacefully and legally. Just enough to express ourselves, and let them know we are monitoring their actions, and to let them know we KNOW where they live. Even non-threatening letters sent to their homes would work somewhat. Make it personal - they do with us.
No need to act out or make threats: it’s enough at this time to merely let them know that we know who they are, what they are doing, and where they live.
Like you say, their spouses and kids will put a pressure on them we could never accomplish otherwise.
The next time you are having a friendly chat with a cop over a cup of coffee bring up the subject of firearm confiscation. Ask his opinion on the idea and then mention that there’s serious costs to such action.
“What if you left to go to work for a fun day of firearm confiscation and when you came home all you saw was ashes. That would take the fun out of firearm confiscation, wouldn’t it? Especially if one or all of your family was still in the house when it happened. Officer, remember that saying, “Protect and Serve? That includes my family and my home too.”
Before you pay the bill be sure to convince the man that these are measures that most certainly would not be taken UNLESS he steps out of line and changes from a protector/defender of our rights to a destroyer of them.
An even more effective way to get this message across is to have an 80 year old lady deliver it.
Cutting the power sources and communication lines/cell towers is probably the two most effective ways I can think of to mess with the power structure. Rail lines and highways would be 3rd and 4th. Rupturing the fuel lines that supply the airport would be 5th.