“A woman I know cares for her elderly grandmother at home, along with homeschooling her two or three children. I don’t think her grandma is bedridden but does need someone at home with her all the time.”
Her family consisted of her daughter & son-in-law, and her grandson, my husband. So unfortunately no one could care for her at home. My husband and I were married about three years after she went in, but prior I had tried to convince them that perhaps a private home run by a professional caregiver would be better. I can’t think of what they are called - but they take in three or four ambulatory folks. There are a few of those in our area that have sterling reputations.
Sadly, with most families having both hub/wife working, no one is there to look after the elderly. She would have been left to her own devices ten + hours out of each day if she had been with us, which wouldn’t have worked anyway. Plus, it was her decision to stay in the nursing home.
When she first went, she was in “assisted care”, and she had a nice private room, with her own furniture, etc.
The “full care” facilities were totally different.
That is a sad story. Non-intact families, non-extended families living together as they did in the past, make caring for the frail elderly at home much more difficult.
Families need to come back into fashion.