Sounds like another case of the wife cashing out and dumping the old guy after the kids are grown. I can tell you that she knew this was coming 2 years ago so she’s probably got all the cash she’s going to take, but close the accounts anyway. Same with the CC’s because you will end up paying the balance even if it grows before the divorce is final.
It takes on average 5 years for the husband to recover financially. But you will recover. You will go through a period here shortly where common sense goes out the window and you will be tempted to do nutty things...like follow her around, wonder what she’s up to, hack her emails. Well, this period will end after about 3 months and you have to try and get through it without doing something truly regrettable. You are going to grieve now. She did her grieving last year.
Stay in the house if at all possible. By leaving you give up a huge position. Keep any non-ordered maintenance as small as possible because this will be used as a foundation for any possible future maintenance. This is not the time to be generous with your money.
Life goes on.
Oh..I would suggest paying more cash in order to keep your retirement intact for yourself if possible.
The ex lied constantly about meaningless things...then she screeched when I didn't trust her. She screeched a lot...then she complained that I tuned her out the moment she started to screech
She said she wanted a trial separation but I decided we would skip the trial period.
Some coworkers offered to follow her around. I declined; if I were interested in where she was going, who she was seeing or what she was up to, I would have tried to salvage our relationship.
While we lived together in the U.S., she said she hated Americans. Later, we lived in Germany and she said she hated Germans. I sent her butt back to England and she said she hated the English.
Hopefully, she's since discovered the one common denominator of this issue...
Thanks.