To not want to pay for goodies that you or your children are barred from would be “racist.” God save us from that word.
It only matters if you let it. I've been called every name in the book just about. I guess over the years I've just become oblivious to it.
As for my kids though, we intend to raise them to have no whitey guilt whatsoever. I will do everything I possibly can to instill in them the notion that there is never a time for which they should feel responsible for or obligated to fix wrongs that they had no hand in creating.