Okay, I finally read your blog. On a side note, if you want more people to read it, you will need to put more than 42 words in your post.
I’ve been doing a LOT of research on narcissism lately, because of my friend, and there’s a LOT on the web to read. Your husband sounds like a classic case (your example of lying on the frozen ground and he doesn’t care is a classic example of a narcissistic man) and the first thing you can do is arm yourself with knowledge. This is very very important. Read anything and EVERYTHING you can find about narcissism. I used search words like “living with a narcissist” “examples of narcissism” and stuff like that.
And start saving money! Hide it somewhere where it can’t be found, even if it’s only a quarter here and there. It will add up. And you’re going to need a divorce lawyer if you want to save your sanity. There is no choice but to sever the relationship unless you want to continue living this way. He will not change.
I feel for you, I really do. But if you arm yourself with knowledge you will find techniques that will help you. In fact, you might check around and see if there’s a 12-step program (I’m not joking about this).
Does he drink?
I appreciate the advice. I already plan on “squirreling away”.
He doesn’t drink. He’s Type 2 diabetic and uses his “sugars being out of whack” as an excuse. It’s an excuse that I just can’t accept anymore.
He’s a good provider and works long hours, but he doesn’t seem to realize that those are also empty excuses.
I’m glad we got to clear the air. I don’t know where I’m going on this road, but I know that I’ve got to hold out hope for the sake of my kids.