No, it's not.
While you may be able to defend yourself against physical abuse, it's much harder.
Emotional and verbal "abuse" is much easier to deal with:
1) Walk out
2) Divorce your feelings from the abuser - if you don't care it's a "Sticks and stones..." situation
3) Divorce the perp if you're married to him/her
4) Shun the perp if you're not
5) Quit the job if the perp is your boss.
Broken bones, knife wounds, gunshot wounds, etc., are not equivalent. In a case of emotional/verbal abuse you are making it possible.
Stop participating.
And go where??? I’ve got two autistic children who depend on routine, the husband controls the money, and I’ve got no marketable skills. Everything is in his name.
If my husband beat me, I can put distance between us physically. No matter where I go, though, the insults and degradation are there. You can’t just turn off memories like a water faucet. There is no escape.
While it’s easy to say to just do 1, 2, 3, etc., don’t pass judgment on those living in their own private hell until you know all the details.