See, that's what makes your posts so down right funny. In your world some states ARE more sovereign than others and CAN tell other states what they can or cannot do. The hypocrisy and contradictions that y'all spew out with ever post boggles the mind.
Uh NO! That would be YOU and the great Mr. Lincoln's theory!
It is YOUR side spouting the idea that states who wish to leave of their own free will cannot do so and should be made to stay against their will by whatever means are necessary including armed force and despite the fact that their is NOT A WORD in the law compelling them to stay!!
That idea is perfectly analogous to your wife deciding she is going to leave you but being denied the ability to do so because you are literally holding a gun on her to make her stay!
You mean like, half-a-dozen Northern States getting together and sending a million bayonets south, to tell Virginia and the Carolinas what to do?
Lincoln's original plan, remember.