My wifes family is over 2,000 miles away from us. In a SHTF scenario that might as well be the far side of the moon.
Now 'friends', they're another story. If I had a nickel for every time a 'friend' said "If things ever go to sh* I'm coming here." meaning my place.
I've responded that they damn well better not show up empty handed or I'll show them the highway the same way I would any stranger. I told them I'm not going to do for them what they should have been doing for themselves.
A couple of them have wised up and started making their own preparations. One guy actually said he'd have to re-evaluate our relationship. "Fine" was all I said.
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folks like this would do better to simply reevaluate THEMSELVES and their refusal to take responsibility for their lives. Your (soon-to-be-former) friend is using emotions to guide his behavior, and that is never a good thing unless you are a chick shopping for shoes.
For most of us it is a big wake up when a former friend exposes himself as an utter flake who refuses to man up and do the right thing. I take solace that these are not the caliber of folks I want around me in a crisis anyways.
Good. He's one less concern for you as he won't be coming with his hands out.
So, he's bent out of shape because you won't let him come and mooch off of you? Who needs a friend like that anyway?
The more people who we can get to think this through, the better.