I appreciate your comments.
I am frustrated, as I have family who will NOT try to learn anything about Aspergers, and insist on taking things personally, when the poor social skills of my son cause a problem.
It is not an excuse to allow under achievement.
It is not an excuse to allow malice or abuse or even bad manors.
However, understanding the syndrome does help reduce the hurt, the pain, the guilt, and even a bit of the frustration in dealing with this disorder.
It is like you are dealing the “Dr. Spock” on Star Trek, or a robot, at times.
They just don't think or react like the rest of us.
I appreciate your response. Your emotions are perfectly understandable and not something to regret. IMHO, there are things in life that we should get angry about.
Unfortunately, “psychiatric disorders” are loaded terms for many people. As a result, many deny that disorders exist and others conflate them into much worse clinical syndromes than are the case.
As a psychologist, I blame my profession for failing to educate the public about how diagnoses are made and what they mean. The result is that some people feel stigmatized and fail to get the help they need. Others struggle because their social network does not provide them social support because of their ignorance. You may consider expanding your social network, such as finding an Asperger’s support group in your community.
If you are not getting the appropriate professional help, I recommend that you seek a specialist referral from your state APA or a well respected hospital system in your area. Please don’t be afraid to switch doctors.