Perhaps this is a pet peeve with you as well, because many people think she was WAY out of line.
Btw, who released the private emails? For what purpose?
I still say this woman has the right to ask to be addressed by her name. One shouldn't presume that another person ever uses a diminutive of their name without being told to address them in that manner.
And it's not weird. As an aside, the French have two forms of "you". One is intimate, "tu", and one is formal, "Vous". So do the Spanish. It acknowledges that some relationships are general while others are intimate.