[marajade]

"I cannot figure why people make finding someone so difficult on someone else."

Most normal women can't meet the standard of looks you all have set up for us in judging the pictures you've posted in this thread.

I've had a number of men tell me I'm pretty and my husband wasn't the first offer of marriage I accepted either.

But when all you read in the thread is how men only want pretty women and that's their only criteria what do you really expect?

[dakine]

Rind on or off?

[Perdogg]

I agree that the perception of the typical woman that I or any other man expects to meet and date and possibly marry is extraordinarily high. However, in reality, which no one here here has privy to, I think most of the women that I have pursued since living here are by no means would be considered the "playmate" type. Yes, men have fantasy women (as well as women - fantasy men), but I personally have never soley judged some one on the basis of looks.
since I spend a good deal of time at the gym, I do prefer a woman who is fit.

[SauronOfMordor]

Most normal women can't meet the standard of looks you all have set up for us in judging the pictures you've posted in this thread.

While I put "reasonably attractive" as one of the criteria in my post #90, it wasn't the only factor. But it is a factor for most guys, with various guys giving it different weights. OTOH, guys learn early on that the supermodel-types are nice to look at, but are not worth the cost of actually pursuing

Guys are biologically hard-wired to be attracted to healthy, fit women in their prime childbearing years. What we call "attractive" is the composite of factors that lead a guy to the judgment that this is a healthy, fit, young woman

One big difference between men and women is that a guy is more likely to operate on the basis of "go out with the best woman who will go out with me", rather than stay home. Women, OTOH, are more likely to stay home rather than date somebody who doesn't meet their "standards".

[Enterprise]

Marajade: "But when all you read in the thread is how men only want pretty women and that's their only criteria what do you really expect?"

This thread is about what an immature whiny sniveling successful woman wants. So, let's go back and look at some of her points.

I am a 38-year-old successful female who is emotionally and financially secure.

Well, shazaam, so far so good.

I have been told that I am very attractive and intimidate men.

So who is telling her this, her momma? Other fems? I doubt that any man would tell her that, she would probably screech, call him a sexist pig and try to sue him for harassment.

I would like to get married but am thought to be too independent.

So, who is putting that idea in her head. Her momma? Her fem friends? Certainly not a man. She would never take a statement like that coming from a man! Nope, not financially, emotionally secure and independent her! And frankly, I cannot imagine any man telling her that he would like to marry her but she is too independent! LOL!!!

In the past, I just thought that these men were needy.

A really deep thinker this one. Certainly no bias or stereotyping there!

However, I was having a group discussion in mixed company where a man said it seems like women don't need men anymore.

So why doesn't she go out with a MAN and have a discussion like this one-on-one when her ditzy group discussion fems aren't around?

I feel as though women were forced to become independent and support themselves.

So ask yourself, who forced her to become independent? Gloria Steinem or Richard Nixon? You make the call!

Now, men seem to be threatened by our success.

Maybe, but the married ones, you know those men who found mates, don't think about it much. And they really really don't like being around women like this. That's why they didn't marry them.

Do I need to act like I "need" men to find my soulmate?

Only she can answer such a stupid question. For that matter, only she can ask such a stupid question.

I abhor needy females, yet I do want to share my life with someone with the ultimate goal of getting married and perhaps having children.

This is asinine. She equates getting married and "perhaps" having children with being a needy female. And she abhors needy females. This woman has issues, and she really needs to stay out of the gene pool. It's for the children.

What is ironic is that I would walk away from my career for the right man and situation.

Translation: "If I could meet a man who is fabulously wealthy and I could quit work and have the lifestyle I want, I would gladly quit working."

In many ways, I feel like I would rather be alone than have to acquiesce to a man's ego.

Translation: "I am afraid of having to deal with a MAN on an adult and personal level. I don't want any possible conflicts. I want a perfect life on my terms only."

She, and others like her, are doomed to a life of writing to hack columnists for advice.

[Fenris6]

Most normal women can't meet the standard of looks you all have set up for us in judging the pictures you've posted in this thread.

We don't expect you to. And we know better than to select a "babe" as a mate, b/c other males pester her and tempt the relationship when things inevitably get rough. I married based on the following criteria, in no particular order:

1) pleasant to look at, esp in the eyes 2) sense of humor, wit, satire 3) intelligent, curious, interesting discussions 4) enjoys sex, willing to experiment 5) pure heart, not a gold digger or manipulator 6) sane