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To: SauronOfMordor; William Terrell
It's not that "men marry down" as much as men have different search criteria.

Yes, and it drives "successful" women crazy.

These "afraid of strong women" howls appear frequently. The etiology is simple.

Women (all women) eroticize success in a man. There's no question about it, you see it everywhere, every day.

Babes like this one use projection to infer that, just as they get excited thinking about a man who is successful, that because THEY are successful, men should be attracted to THEM.

But we're just not.

We are not afraid of, intimidated by, turned off by, worldly success in a woman. But we don't really care very much about it, either. It certainly isn't a relationship starter, in the way it is for women.

Therefore, the field of potential female mates for a successful man is very large, because a) most women are attracted to him, and b) any attractive woman, regardless of employment or social status, can be a player.

For a successful woman who will only be turned on by status higher than hers, however, the talent pool starts small and shrinks rapidly after age 25 or so, as her wiser sisters pick a winner and take him off the market.

By age 38, that pool is vanishingly small.

212 posted on 07/05/2006 4:08:24 AM PDT by Jim Noble (And you know what I'm talkin' 'bout!)
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To: Jim Noble

That's a good explanation. I agree that it must be almost impossible for a successful 38 yeard old woman to meet the kind of man she desires. They are all taken. (And I suspect that most have younger, less achieving, child rearing wives.)


218 posted on 07/05/2006 7:19:02 AM PDT by Enterprise (Let's not enforce laws that are already on the books, let's just write new laws we won't enforce.)
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To: Jim Noble
Babes like this one use projection to infer that, just as they get excited thinking about a man who is successful, that because THEY are successful, men should be attracted to THEM.

It's the fatal misconception about "equality". For decades, women have had it drilled into them that men and women are the same except for minor physical differences. This leads them into the fatal miscalculation that men think the same way they do.

Women are sttracted to high-status powerful males. For a woman, there is evolutionary benefit in picking somebody who will be able to provide for and protect you and your kids.

Men are attracted to healthy, fit women in their prime child-bearing years. There is evolutionary advantage in planting your seed in a fertile location. There is advantage in having kids by a woman who is fit enough to be able to raise them without you if need be

231 posted on 07/05/2006 7:13:13 PM PDT by SauronOfMordor (A planned society is most appealing to those with the arrogance to think they will be the planners)
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