[SauronOfMordor]

I see nothing wrong in how a couple complements each other. It may be that one is very independent and the other is dependent. If it works and is only one component of many that makes the relationship positive then that's a good thing.

It depends on how "independent" is defined. A woman who is able to change her own oil and kill her own spiders is fine.

A woman who always wants things her way, and will nag and complain until she gets it, (and calls that "independence") is best passed by

[marajade]

"A woman who is able to change her own oil and kill her own spiders is fine."

I guess I fail, and so would my husband, if this the criteria.