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I'm not sure I get your meaning here ... unless that woman had prior charge/evidence of child abuse I'm sure the question doesn't come up in adoption interviews, "If you insist on being called *Daddy* and the child refuses, how will you react?"
I think "Are you a lesbian?" would take care of it, don't you?
And before anyone begins to bash me, I am not in favor of homosexual marriage, totally against it, I think it is a sure road to destruction. But I don't see this problem as inherent to homosexual adoption.