Oh Hunny!
Of course you're stressed out! I can't imagine, especially with kids too. Take it easy...
Avoid this place if you must. Sometimes its an upper, sometimes it will cause a stroke.
You are probably not the one to ask, but why would a guy, or the woman, for that matter, need the upper hand in a relationship? If I ever get into another relationship, I just want the person I come home to to smile, tell me supper is ready (even if thatmeans it's frozzen and ready to microwave) and hand me my tool belt.
I don't pretend to have read any of this thread beyond the first dozen posts, btw.