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Be intimate with her sometimes (hold her hand, rub her back)without following up with sex. It would show her that you want to touch her without getting something in return. I would also suggest that you do little things for her like pour her a cup of coffee or take the wrapper off her hamburger, etc. Women love the little things that men do much more than than the flashy things. When you start to focus on her and not yourself you will find that you will actually feel better because she will respond in a like manner to you.

Outstanding post.

The only thing I have to add is that if weight is a problem for her no gifts of candy or fattening foods. One idea might be to get her a puppy as a present. If she likes it she can work off some weight as both partners walk the dog.

My wife and I have some of our best talks walking the dog--the fresh air seems to open our minds to new ideas. (Of course this time of year it is the Arctic blasts that make us forget everything else. :-) )

"One idea might be to get her a puppy as a present. If she likes it she can work off some weight as both partners walk the dog."

We have two dogs already. Buying them was her idea that I supported. You combine that with 3 kids and normal work loads it adds to time spent away from each other.

It's not that I am a total cold fish, it also has to do with her putting some effort in showing me the little things too. I actually do the dishes and laundry when I'm at home. I do open doors and say "I love you" in public. The point is that there is a hitch in our relationship, and I haven't found the answer yet. I'm not giving up though.

Sincerely

Taking walks together is such a good idea. Mr. TMG and I enjoy that too. We are also dog lovers. I also think that couples who share a good sense of humor find it easier to get through the rough times.