[bikepacker67]

For the first 18 years of marriage, it didn't seem to matter to me, but lately it matters.

OK, but all of a sudden you expect her to do a 180 after 18 years? Your wife sounds like she's a bit shy about initiating. Maybe 'being the pursuer' makes her feel dirty - who knows what's going on in her head... DO YOU?

[ScubieNuc]

"Maybe 'being the pursuer' makes her feel dirty - who knows what's going on in her head... DO YOU?"

I think that you are on to something. I have tried talking with her about it, but she gets quiet, and doesn't elaborate. I think it does make her feel dirty. I have tried to figure out what she is thinking, but that is a mystery she has not completely revealed to me.