[GraniteStateConservative]

You need some source of escapism. Have you tried watching sports or playing sports or a hobby or working out or something?

I know that one of our problems centers around…..Gasp, sex. I always have to instigate. It is beginning to feel as though I’m her slave. I put my feelings out there to get them shot down at least 60% of the time. Since she doesn’t instigate, it feels as though she doesn’t get excited by me. She thinks instigating is facing me in bed, or a longer kiss at bed time. Those are just signals that she is interested, but it definitely isn’t pursuing me. We have talked about this but nothing has changed. The problem now is that I am becoming less and less interested in instigating, which means less and less sex. Less sex has lowered her self esteem, which means even a lower chance of her instigating. I am beginning to see a seriously bad downward spiral.

If you want to turn your sex life around, learn about cunnilingus and foreplay in general. She'll initiate sex quite frequently.

[ScubieNuc]

You need some source of escapism. Have you tried watching sports or playing sports or a hobby or working out or something?"

Freerepublic is my escapism.

I love watching sports, but that isn't something my wife enjoys. Watching sports seems to be more of a divider then a joining activity.

I love running and biking, but both require lots of time. Time away from home. I ran in a marathon a couple of years ago, and the time away from home training, seriously put a strain on our relationship. I would love it if she was interested in exercising, so that we could do it together, but she isn't.