[bikepacker67]

Buy yourself a 'vette.

Seriously though:

She thinks instigating is facing me in bed, or a longer kiss at bed time. Those are just signals that she is interested, but it definitely isn’t pursuing me.

If she 'gets into it' does it really matter who 'instigates'? (I think you meant 'initiates' ;-)

[ScubieNuc]

"...does it really matter who 'instigates'?"

For the first 18 years of marriage, it didn't seem to matter to me, but lately it matters. Sex should be about feeling desired, not just some physical exercise.

[television is just wrong]

My husband bought himself a 1981 Delorean. He loves it. Man does he get lookos driving around town.