I think exactly on the same page.
If the sex act is performed (and I use the term sex act loosely here since anal sex in my mind is a revolting, no doubt painful practice that is veering off into sado masochism) between two people who have not vowed faithful lifelong marriage, it is actually cruelty. Putting one's self gratification first always back fires (no pun intended).
And I say this as a person with a lot of background in vice. It hardened my heart, broke my heart, and did damage to others. What to speak of a disease here and there. Sex without marriage leads to all manner of evil. When sex without marriage is promoted as harmless or even a good idea, terrible disservice is done to the young and malleable.
I'm on the same page, too. :(