"Presumption of Shared-Parenting for Divorcing Fit Parents " - MUST BECOME LAW!!!!!

17 July 2005 | Glenn L. Eckles, Jr.

[gleckles]

In Divorce proceedings involving children in the United States, law abiding and wholly-fit-to-parent Fathers are relegated to little more than "visitor" in 85% of those proceedings. This "marginalization" of the critical role of the Father has removed a critical developmental influence from the lives of our children - the negative impact upon the societal landscape of the United States is readily apparent to anyone that cares to open their eyes and honestly survey that landscape.

Visitors are not in a position to impart core-values to their children. The children are then often required to acquire their values on the streets of life - a street where differing values of "good" can cost that child his/her very life - conformance to the street then becomes a de facto necessity for life.

Visitors are not afforded the luxury of sufficient time to effectively mentor their children. The children instead emulate the thug on the street who has accumulated fancy clothes, jewelry, cars and drugs through illegal activities. Our children view these things as the "mark of success" and align their behaviors with the thug so as to gain the same material things in life.

Visitors do not have the opportunity to adequately serve as spiritual leader to their children - do we need to dig any deeper to determine the root cause of the decline in American morality?

Visitors do not have the opportunity to present a positive role model for their children that the children will then grow to emulate. The children instead begin to emulate the behaviors they view on television and on the local street corners.

Visitors are not in a position to implant the concepts of Right OR Wrong, Discipline, OR Self-control. The children instead learn antisocial behaviors from their equally disturbed and as equally angry peers.

Visitors are not allowed to serve in the critical role of disciplinarian to their children, and it is no small wonder that children of divorce are out of control!! The children instead run free throughout the streets of our Nation, learning new antisocial behaviors and vices.

I could go on an on about the limitations of a "visitor" when it comes to parental roles. Suffice to say, our children absolutely NEED BOTH PARENTS in their lives if they are to be properly prepared for life in the real world - a world which is fast becoming "not a pretty place."

Empirical data being indisputable, I have provided (below) current statistics from the Departments of Justice, Health and Human Services, the Centers for Disease Control, the National Institutes of Health, the Census Bureau and private studies, which clearly communicates the significant damage that has occurred courtesy of the "Failed Social Experiment" of the last 35-years - an experiment with human souls implemented by the Federal and State Legislatures at the behest of the TRILLION Dollar per year Divorce Industry, and an experiment which would certainly make Dr. Mengle' proud.

Simply by restoring BOTH "FIT" PARENTS to the lives of the children, these extremely tragic "single-parent statistics" can be reversed in a relatively short period of time. Children raised without BOTH PARENTS in their lives are: are 33 times more likely to be seriously abused (so that they will require medical attention). are 73 times more likely to be killed as a result of abuse. account for 71% of teenage pregnancies (Costing the US Taxpayers $40B per year). daughters are 2.1 times more likely to have children during there teenage years than are children from intact families. are 4.6 times more likely to commit suicide are 6.6 times to become teenaged mothers are 24.3 times more likely to run away are 15.3 times more likely to have behavioral disorders are 6.3 times more likely to be in a state-operated institution are 10.8 times more likely to commit rape are 6.6 times more likely to drop out of school are 15.3 times more likely to end up in prison while a teenager account for 90% of all homeless and runaway children account for 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions account for 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers account for 85% of prison youths account for 63% of youth suicides account for 85% of all children the exhibit behavioral disorders account for 80% of rapists motivated by displaced anger disorder The ONLY viable solution to this societal crisis is the "Presumption of Shared-Parenting" for ALL "fit parents" and the "enforcement of the fundamental liberty right to parent one's children absolutely free from unnecessary governmental interjection unless/until it is clearly established that a parent is unfit to parent." This one reform in Family Law will "on day-1 of implementation eliminate the vast majority of contentious divorces, and will in fact, reduce the number of divorces due to the "elimination of incentives for divorce" which are so much a part of the lure built-in to the vile system of the Divorce Industry.

This "solution" is not just the opinion of this Father (or the 25-MILLION similarly-situated parents), but has been corroborated by the Journal of Family Psychology (March 2002, Vol. 16, No. 1) which published the results of a detailed meta-analysis of 33 studies, involving 1,846 sole-custody children, 814 joint-custody children, and 251 intact families. Participants were randomly selected from court and divorce records, convenience samples, national samples, school samples, and clinical samples. The finding clearly established that "that children in joint custody arrangements were as well adjusted as children in intact families, and better adjusted than children in sole custody arrangements." Further, the findings clearly established that "children in joint custody arrangements had fewer behavioral and emotional problems, had higher self-esteem, better family relations and school performance than children in sole custody arrangements" and that "these children were as well adjusted as children in intact families on the same measures."

Given the empirical data that accurately reflects that damage that is being done to our children by the forced-absence of a parent following divorce, AND given the empirical data that clearly identifies the solution - "Presumption of Shared-Parenting" MUST become the Law of the Land within the FAMILY Court Arena!!

CLEARLY, the "Presumption of Shared-Parenting" for all parents that are "fit to parent" IS in the best interest of our Nations Children. OR, are there other "interests" that prevent this "presumption" from being the law of the land??

REFORM FAMILY LAW NOW!!!!!!!!!!!! Make "Presumption of Shared-Parenting" THE LAW OF THE LAND!!! The "Best Interest of our Children" DEMANDS IT!!! The law abiding and wholly-fit-to parent Parents DEMAND IT!!! The Peace, Tranquility and Security of this Nation DEMANDS IT!!!

Warm Regards from the LIVE BEAT Dad of Cassidy and KaraLynn - two INNOCENT VICTIMS of the Maryland (anti)FAMILY Courts,

Glenn L. Eckles, Jr. Gerrardstown, WV 25420 (formerly of the State of Maryland, where children are systematically denied their Fathers) GLEckles@aol.com

"Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it."

[hophead]

"Fit" has two different meanings in these instances. One for the father and one for the mother. The women involved have as much fault as the stupid laws. They are the one who could allow the fathers to see their kids more than on "visitation" days. There is NOTHING in the law that forbids the "custodial" parent from allowing the other parent more visitation time. The ONLY things that prevents that is a screwed up custodial parent.

[Dashing Dasher]

Joined today to tell us this?

[Dashing Dasher]

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[MikefromOhio]

ohhh....

so this is 3 threads, posted by newbies, with no comments....


right.....

[Dashing Dasher]

I'm glad you see it my way.
One hit wonder?
Some song, sung in different keys?

Sounds like someones got "issues".

[Cedar]

Best solution: don't divorce.