Houmatt, when your wife left you a year ago to live 200 miles away and you didn't see her for long periods, that should have told you that it was over - at least for the foreseeable future.
Trust only God completely, because humans are always fallible. That you want so much to talk to her won't make her want to talk to you; in fact, it will probably make her withdraw further. You'll live, and this too shall pass. May God grant you wisdom, guidance, and faith.
You should know that after the last time we spoke (December 24) no contact has been made on neither part. She has a blog on Live Journal that she updates from time to time and that is how I know what and how she is doing.