I don't understand why you and she lived 200 miles apart, her in Canada and you in New York. Was that the arrangement for the entire six years of the marriage?
Why didn't one of you join the other and make a home in one country or the other?
That happened last year, when the company she worked for sold off her division. We came up here, but she said she was going to live with her parents until she could get her own place to crash. For reasons still not clear to me, the option of living up there while we went through the motions was never explained to me. I would imagine her parents nixed the idea. I do not think Terri would have objected to it, as she lived with me for a year before we could get married and she got a work permit. While she got the odd pay from a telecommuting job, I was working and trying to support her.