Mother was selfish to have an affair and father was selfish to abandon a 5 year old….
Yes this man’s betrayal is every bit, if not more selfish than the mother’s.
5 year old has no control over his lineage and has known this man in every way to be his father since his birth (we assume)
Don’t you remotely claim the man hasn’t betrayed this boy.
You can rationalize it as justifiable if you want to, but it’s a betrayal.
I don’t see it the way you do. Don’t you claim that this man has a responsibility for this child. He doesn’t. Its not his child. The one who has that responsibility is the father. He is not the father.
He’s just the poor guy who got cheated on and used in the worst way by the ho of a wife. If he wants to raise the kid as his that’s one thing. If he doesn’t feel as though he can bear to be around the visible reminder his wife cheated on him and used him in this way, I understand.
The ones to be mad at here are the cheating wife and the man she had a child with and who has not taken responsibility for that child.