That’s very sweet and so thoughtful! It’s nice to know there are decent guys here when these threads start up. Congrats on your long marriage - you are obviously a man of maturity and dignity.
I’m coming up on my 25th in September!
Congratulations!
I’ve seen the bashing of independent women-and women in general by divorced guys who got a raw deal here before-but the assertion that a man is lord, master and commander of his woman is new to me-it reminded me of a website my compadre and employer and I ran across a couple of years ago-it came up under a key word when we were looking for type of water heater for a job-don’t remember what it was called, but it was devoted to male superiority and advised guys that if their women weren’t at their beck and call, totally obedient to their wishes en la camara and every other place, talked back/showed anger, etc, they should “chastise” her by scolding, sending to the bedroom without the dinner SHE cooked-it even advocated slapping or spanking-treated like indentured servants.
It was just weird-we both thought it was a polygamy or muslim sharia site-we were totally shocked to find it was not...
Even though MrT5 was in the military when he got divorced, he was given custody of his 2 kids-his ex was a stockbroker, but she never paid child support as ordered or used her visiting rights to spend time with her kids-there is no premium on bad behavior in divorces...