I’m speaking as a survivor. It’s awful, and it persists for years. The people who killed themselves feel nothing afterwards. It’s selfish and inconsiderate and done with no concern for the loved ones they leave behind. I don’t care how they bad they are feeling before they decide to end their lives. It can’t be as bad as what they inflict and leave to linger.
Bravo for you and Bravo for Rollins. Remember who reads these opinions. It is better to tell people to deal with their problems and endure the life they’ve been given than to “understand” (excuse) their suicide.
"I think it’s great for two people to be together. That is a good number. I think, that to keep it alive though, you can’t spend every day together. It wears out the magic, Love means nothing to me if it’s not fortified with fierce, painful longing, brief explosive instances of furious passion and intimacy and then a sad parting for a time. In that way, you can give your life to it and still have a life of your own.
I think some couples spend too much time together. They flatten out the potential for experience by constant closeness. Passion builds over time like steam. Let it rage until it’s exhausted and then leave it alone to let it build up again. Why can’t love be insane and distorted? How can it be vital if it has the same threshold as normal day-to-day experience? Why can’t you write burning letters and let your nocturnal self smolder with desire for one who is not there? Why not let the days before you see her be excruciating and ferment in your mind so on the day you go to the airport to pick her up, you’re nearly sick with anticipation? And then when desire shows the first sign of contentment, throw it back it its cage and let it slowly build itself back into a state of starved fury. Then when you are together, it all matters. So that when you look into her eyes, you lose your balance, so that when she touches you, it feels like you have never been touched before.
When she says your name, you think it was she who named you. When she has gone, you bury your face in the pillow to smell her hair and you lie awake at night remembering your face in her neck, her breathing and the amazing smell of her skin. Your eyes go wet because you want her so bad and miss her so much. Now that is worth the miles and the time. That matches the inferno of life. Otherwise you poison each other with your presence day after day as you drag each other through the inevitable mundane aspects of your lives.
That is the slow death that I see slapped on faces everywhere I go. It’s part of the world’s sadness that’s more empty than cold, poorly lit rooms in cities of the American night"
In other words, a slow natural death tagging along after a depressing life is ones personal decision to pursue, in that if you don't have the stones to live life on the edge, then get your happy on and embrace boring.
Suicides are murderers, sometimes they take only themselves, sometimes they take others.
Bottom line is that death sucks, it's unpredictable, and when kids are involved it is the ultimate horror.
It's wise to avoid inflicting horror on kids by all means necessary.