Posted on 07/13/2013 8:24:15 PM PDT by nickcarraway
At 11 on a weeknight earlier this year, her work finished, a slim, pretty junior at the University of Pennsylvania did what she often does when she has a little free time. She texted her regular hookup — the guy she is sleeping with but not dating. What was he up to? He texted back: Come over. So she did. They watched a little TV, had sex and went to sleep.
Their relationship, she noted, is not about the meeting of two souls.
“We don’t really like each other in person, sober,” she said, adding that “we literally can’t sit down and have coffee.”
Ask her why she hasn’t had a relationship at Penn, and she won’t complain about the death of courtship or men who won’t commit. Instead, she’ll talk about “cost-benefit” analyses and the “low risk and low investment costs” of hooking up.
“I positioned myself in college in such a way that I can’t have a meaningful romantic relationship, because I’m always busy and the people that I am interested in are always busy, too,” she said.
“And I know everyone says, ‘Make time, make time,’ ” said the woman, who spoke on the condition of anonymity but agreed to be identified by her middle initial, which is A. “But there are so many other things going on in my life that I find so important that I just, like, can’t make time, and I don’t want to make time.”
It is by now pretty well understood that traditional dating in college has mostly gone the way of the landline, replaced by “hooking up” — an ambiguous term that can signify anything from making out to oral sex to intercourse — without the emotional entanglement of a relationship.
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When school age children were taught that oral sex isn't sex.
I never met a girl that didn’t want to fall in love with someone except for temporary periods like school, deployments, after a breakup, etc.
Of course I am excluding the certifiable mentally ill ones...
This is why I seriously doubt I’ll be able to marry a Western woman.
And this is the reason for the contraception insurance laws.
These kind of people can not have a meaningful relationship because they are empty, after a few dates any one can see that they nave a big vacant spot in the head.
No one would want a real relationship with them and they do not want a relationship with some one like themselves.
It is if you've got a healthy sexuality. This poor girl needs counseling.
i think the proper term is “c*m dumpster”
“Yeah, she’ll be mid-late 30s, or even 40s, complaining about how all the “good guys” are taken.”
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