Why do you do that, you are talking about life insurance, not a widow’s pension, or on base housing or medical or all the other categories of ‘married’ and the military or federal employment.
You do that kind of thing over and over, you just make up something else and pretend that is the question, nobody is more evasive and secretive than libertarians.
“”There has never been a time in American history when the federal government was not having to decide the validity of marriage for it’s purposes, for instance in 1780 the Continental congress legislated on widow benefits for the military, and it continued to update those laws without interruption, 1794, 1798, 1802, and on and on.””
“”Earned pay? One man single, one married, both die, only one has a legally defined widow, and she receives consideration, that still applies in 2013, who gets the widow pension, the gay partner, all 4 wives?””
That is nothing more than contract law. You and your employer could agree that all of your benefits go to your cat.
Has very little to do with marriage.
You are fighting awfully hard to keep the legal framework that is currently allowing gays to re-write a religious institution.
Why is that?