The only insanity is to argue and each of us trying to understand the others position. I contend your position is that of the belligerent, nothing can make me "come to my senses" in that regard. Their is NOTHING any leaving state(s) could "steal" that would make me take arms against them, NOTHING.
And what could be more belligerant than taking actions that you know will have negative impact on the other states, expect them to do nothing about it, and call it legal? Again, you view the Constitution, if you view it at all, as something that protects only your side, provides rights only for your side, and can be used as a weapon only by your side. You are, in your own way, every bit as bad as the government you profess you're trying to break away.
Let me state how I feel with a little test of sorts...
“Eastern Westvia” applies to join the United States, It’s people vote for admission and the congress approves it’s admission into the United States.
The government spends billions of dollars on “Eastern Westvia” building all manner of government facilities including parks and military bases on land it bought from the new state.
In one of these federal lands the US military discovered a substance that when processed will light up New York State for a thousand years with a fleck of dust the size of a grain of sand.
This substance is found no where lese on the planet but “Eastern Westvia”.
The governor and the state legislature decide that with this new substance they no longer need to be part of the United States and decide to secede.
Can you in this case justify secession....