Posted on 09/05/2006 7:23:00 PM PDT by ShaunMcDonnell
Go Fish! :)
I am so sorry for your losses and what you are going through right now...I had to deal with my mom with Alzheimers, and my dad with cancer...tho it was a few years back...for you, things are still very close to the surface, and as you say, 'raw'...I completely understand...
This happens to most of us...there comes a time, when our parents are very aged, or very ill, and end of life issues become so very important...and their end of life care is so very important...and we have the privilege of caring for them, as they cared for us when we were babies and children...but its difficult, because we realize that what we are doing for our parents is end of life care, as opposed to the beginning of life care they gave us...
I hope you will take care of yourself, thats important, if you plan to help care for your mom...I took care of both of my parents at home, until they died, but was lucky enough to have money enough to hire nurses and aides to care for them a few hours a day, so that I could take care of myself, and my family...Your care for yourself is super important...
I will think of you this evening, and think of your mom...will say a prayer for you...should you ever just want to chat, Freepmail me...I have cared for my mom with Alzheimers while she was dying, I cared for my dad with cancer while he was dying, and I also cared for my older son, with leukemia, while he was dying...I have some small insight into the toll this can take on a person..sometimes just having another person to use a sounding board, can help...I would be pleased to help you in any way I can...take care...
Be well also, friend...
You are blessed, andy. You used the word "privledge" and that's exactly the word I've used over and over to describe how it felt to take care of my mother when she was recuperating. Like you, we are fortunate enough to do whatever it takes. Thank you for your kind words. My mother is "ok" right now, but I know this is just the beginning of a long haul. I am prepared, as much as one could be, and will DO whatever she needs and wants.
We already have a living will as my mother is adament about no resusitation or extraordinary measures.
God is good...........all the time.
Before anyone points out my spelling.....I KNOW! :)
Your spelling is fine...we all know exactly what you mean...both of my parents also had living wills, they insisted upon them...and they made sure that I knew exactly what they did and did not want...they told me verbally, and had it down in writing...they lived as they chose, and they died as they chose...free from pain, no extraordinary measures, and family surrounding them, holding them as they died..
Yes, you are probably in for a long haul...and yet,this can be an extremely precious time, because you know, that realistically time may be short now...often its a time for remembering things together, slowing down a little in this busy life and just enjoying the slow times with your mom will be so very enjoyable...I wish you the very best, and will remember you both...please, do keep me updated...
You might point out that Jeb Bush had no problem getting elected in a state where this Gallagher character can't ge the time of day.
Yikes. Some people don't mind making seriously weird posts.
Thank you RunningWolf.
Howlin is just angry, because I spanked him so many times. Children are like that. Howlin, like most liberals, always will pick and choose PART of a post, because they don't have the intelligence to answer entire posts. Poor Howlin. Maybe we need to cut him some slack.
RunningWolf, it's obvious by your posts that you're intelligent, so no surprise that you are an expert at chess.
My brother was president of a chess club, and used to write chess columns in the newspaper, so I know a lot of chess players, and some of them have gone over to bridge, or play both.
I have also read that chess players, when they reach their elderly years, are less like to get Alzheimer's than bingo players, probably because chess stimulates the mind (although nothing is written in stone).
"Tom has also endorsed Charlie Crist."
They do that in politics, but Charlie Crist is STILL a liberal, which I have show on my posts..
Golleeeeee, Howlin. You need all those people to help you out against little ole me. I told you that you were a pusillanimous poster.
Hey Howlin, do you play bingo??
She didn't ping us to help her; she pinged us for a good morning laugh.
"My own mother never got to see anything beyond age 42 starting with a precursor at 27 and a resurgent at 40'sh
Yes it was cancer"
I'm sorry that you lost your mother when she was so young.
Didn't you ask me not to ping you? (no doubt because you are no match for me).
So why are you now pinging ME?
Maybe it's just your way of apologizing.
Hello? I didn't ping you; I responded to you.
I'm not surprised you don't know the difference.
Boy, people really feel the need to defend Crist around here. One would think there would be no need to defend him since, as they put, Florida loves him and he will be the next governor. However, I think many of them are worried about the Dem. winning. I wonder why that is?
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