And if your cousin gets a divorce, your father is now a winner? Will you go up to him and say he was right all along? I sincerely doubt that.
This is not a case of winning and losing. Again, your father probably wanted what was best for her. Why he would care so much for his niece as to not speak to her for the last ten years, however, is a mystery (which I am personally content to leave unsolved).
But my guess is that he felt more disappointment than resentment.
Maybe because he passed away in 2000?
BTW, he completely condoned the marriage of my sister to her husband who was white and an officer in the navy.
He physically and emotionally abused her and my nephew. They eventually divorced and my sister went on to remarry a wonderful man a week after my father passed away (it wasn't planned that way, it just sort of happened as such).
And last time I saw my cousin, which was at my wedding recently, she seemed very happy and content. Although she did complain that her husband is a bit of a neat freak and tends to get a little nutty with the dust buster. Sounds perfect to me! lol