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To: AdamSelene235

"Perhaps you care to respond with some farting noise now."

If you wish.

I'm happily married. I've also been divorced. My ex-wife and I got our divorce, after 17 years, by going to a divorce mediator. We divided our assets equally. We're both good earners, so there was never any discussion about spousal support. We had no children, so there was no child support discussion, either. After we were divorced, we remained on good terms.

I've remarried and am now married to my current wife for 14 years.

It's all a two-way street. Having met some men who have refused any responsibility for their children after a divorce, I guess I'm just not all that sympathetic. One guy I know went so far as to leave the country to avoid paying child support for his own children.

It works both ways.


35 posted on 09/15/2005 10:35:04 AM PDT by MineralMan (godless atheist)
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To: MineralMan
It works both ways.

I am in complete agreement with you.

39 posted on 09/15/2005 10:42:34 AM PDT by Gabz ((Chincoteague, VA) USSG Warning: portable sewing machines cause broken ankles)
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To: MineralMan
I'm happily married. I've also been divorced. My ex-wife and I got our divorce, after 17 years, by going to a divorce mediator. We divided our assets equally. We're both good earners, so there was never any discussion about spousal support. We had no children, so there was no child support discussion, either. After we were divorced, we remained on good terms. I've remarried and am now married to my current wife for 14 years.

This is anecdotal evidence that serial polygamy has been to your liking. This doesn't accurately reflect the inequality of men and women before the law.

41 posted on 09/15/2005 10:48:53 AM PDT by AdamSelene235 (Truth has become so rare and precious she is always attended to by a bodyguard of lies.)
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To: MineralMan

Well said.

My sister is in her late 20s and has said she will never marry or have children.

The reason?

Because she has seen that the burden of raising children falls on the mother, which wouldn't be a problem if you could stay home and that could be your full-time job asit used to be.

Unfortunately, most guys want their wives to work either because the 2nd income is necessary to pay the bills or simply because they resent the notion of her staying home while they have to work.

There are exceptions, but they are few and far between.

She said that she doesn't want to end up a single mom having to work a full-time job to support her children and fight her way through the courts to get some financial help from someone who will resent her for it.

She'd rather stay single and childless.

Being that I am in the very position she is trying to avoid (except I don't ask for any support except that which is freely given out side of a court room), I can't say I blame her.

So basically, guys are avoiding the nuclear family because they don't want to end up paying alimony, child support and/or losing half of what they own. And women are avoiding the nuclear family because they know the difficulties faced by single moms in today's world and don't want their children raised by a day care.

Men and women don't trust each other enough to believe that the "'til death do you part" vow will actually happen.

As goes marriage, so goes the nuclear family.


45 posted on 09/15/2005 10:56:52 AM PDT by RMDupree (HHD: Join the Hobbit Hole Troop Support - http://freeper.the-hobbit-hole.net/)
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