It doesn't bother me at all, xsm, in fact I have joined the discussion at times. Part of that, though, is some may question the conventional wisdom and need not be told to get lost. I know you're not doing that and neither am I. Speculate away! And I join you in prayer for a good resolution.
i think most of us feel rather protective towards Beth Twitty, thinking after all she has been through, how fair is it to heap blame on her. that is why some react negatively towards those type of comments, IMO. personally, i can't imagine what she is going through, i don't know that i would have her strength. i think we are all pretty reconciled to a less than happy resolution, at this point just closure would be a relief to the family, i am sure.