First of all, I am not Arminian. I claim no name but Christian. Second, I am not making special exceptions, I am just saying that it is up to God to decide when someone is unable to fulfill his commandments. You said God is consistent in His salvation plan and method, that is exactly what I am saying. He is consistent, and to obey the Gospel, that includes being baptized for the remission of sins.
Be that as it may there are only two soteriologies. Either you believe our Lord Jesus did everything in your salvation (Reform/Calvin) or you had a "free choice" in the matter (Arminian). I make the distinction because it is a matter of understanding where you are coming from. As a Calvinist I don't believe I did ANYTHING to earn/deserve my salvation including being baptized. It is asked of God and I obeyed.
"He is consistent, and to obey the Gospel, that includes being baptized for the remission of sins."
I can't argue with you on baptism because it is a sacrament of the church. However, baptism is not what save you (I know about the verse in Peter). If you're looking at baptism as an opportunity to "prove yourself" to God and believe this is what will save you, you are sadly misinformed. If you're looking at baptism as a method to identify yourself with Christ then I rejoice.