Well, Mary was kinda cute when she was young (old portraits), of course she lost her looks when she hit her mid-30's like people used to do.....
Lincoln had a girlfriend who died when he was young. He was very much hung on her and her death devastated him. Let the gay theorists explain that.
I realize that this is an odd bit of role reversal, but in the interests of accuracy and integrity, I have to say that the whole Ann Rutledge story has been discredited.