"the reason I did not care for your list of saved/unsaved is because I am not going to put God in a box"
Sorry that it would offend you. I know you don't wish to limit God nor what He can do but He certainly does have His limits. God cannot violate His character. He does not have total free will in the sense that He must abide by His own nature. Can God lie? Can God destroy Himself? Can God change His mind? Scripture says He can do none of these, so there is a "box" that He fits into. I don't presume to know the mind of God nor do I expect to understand why He does some things - except that it is for His own glory. But He does tell us a great deal about Himself, His Son, and His Spirit in His Holy Scripture.
It is our obligation to know God as well as possible. He provides a means for us to do so by giving us an intellect, His Word, and His Spirit. If we are His children, God demands a personal relationship with us. In order to develop this relationship, we must know God to the best of our ability - just as we would in any human relationship. I don't think that trying to understand who God is and how God acts is akin to putting Him "in a box".
Yes, but by requesting that I agree or disagree with your list in post 351, that is what you were trying to get me to do. To put God is a box.
Would you be willing to answer yes or no to your own list?
Since you are not a Calvinist by your own admssion and I am not an Arminian, lets see where we agree.
Would you agree that God saves those that he chooses to save and no others?
Would that be a good starting point?