Vern, I think you are feeling convicted and defensive. I don't agree with Mom on a number of issues but, if she is anything she is zealous for the Lord. Granted, we all get a little testy when the sword cuts. Nevertheless, we all need to examine ourselves regularly, no?
BTW, I mostly hear that scripture (judge not lest ye be judged) quoted by backsliders.
I too see this as a sad state of affairs.
You do not like to "proof text" ,yet I will bet you often write sermons based on one or two verses.As I said I am willing to bet you have used JN 3:16 as a "proof text"
You attempt to appear very righteous and patient ..yet one reading your words may get another impression ..that is on YOUR judgment of men
I know all about those who are angry, bitter, and aggressive - and in the name of God?
Mat 7:4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam [is] in thine own eye? :>)))
Seeing that you do not like to "proof text" I assume that you could write out a position paper on infant salvation ...so Pastor how about it?