I’m 63, single, child-free – and my friends weren’t there for me when I needed them

www.msn.com ^ | August 6, 2025 | Kate Mulvey

[Vaduz]

Friends weren’t there for me when I needed them.

Well firends are not always what they appear to be or say.

They know all about you it comes in handy when they want something.

But you know your furniture and other items will be useful to them and not tossed in the trash.

[Albion Wilde]

Always keep score so that you can use it to justify some meanness later.

Always keep the business card of someone who has wronged you. When you ding a parked car, write "Sorry" on the back and slip it under the wiper blade."

[Albion Wilde]

High School/College is truly one of the few opportunities we get in life to bond with others. Lord knows you cannot do that anymore in the workplace, it’s just too risky.

In any large group, that risk exists, even in churches, which hurts more because you don't expect it there.

“Builds character.”

Eventually we all come to the realization that only God loves perfectly, and we lean on Him for comfort when the world lets us down.

[Albion Wilde]

I learned a long time ago that I would rather live alone and be happy, than live with someone and be totally miserable.

As one of my divorced women friends says, “Now I live with a television. If I don't like what it's saying, I hit mute.”

[Albion Wilde]

Do women friends show up, as a rule?

How else would they find out what to criticize, or gossip about?

[Albion Wilde]

All good, realistic advice. May God bless you in surprising ways in coming years, and may you accept any true blessings offered from those you meet as you age.

[Albion Wilde]

I've seen plenty of ending scenarios. Sudden death is best.

After two of my aunts turned 90, were in a care home and not driving any more, instead of flowers I brought them chocolates and booze. What's the worst that could happen? They loved it. And kept their great senses of humor until the end, ages 98 and 99.

[Albion Wilde]

I screamed with laughter at that meme!

[Albion Wilde]

"probably lie dead in our homes for several months"

And yet, being dead, how would you know, and why would it matter?

It would ruin the carpeting and lessen the resale value for those ungrateful children who don't call.

Seriously, I'm most likely going to be a skeletal rotting corpse sitting in my armchair with my jaw agape and a laptop still connected to the wall socket, FR on the screen.

[Albion Wilde]

Good to hear. That’s the spirit!

[Tolerance Sucks Rocks]

I know a woman older than I am in Florida, a college professor. She lives alone with a few cats, and she told me once that if she started to get infirm or senile, she would walk out in front of a moving bus. Who knows, that might be a useful way to go for me too, since I’m 58 and single.

“You can evade reality, but you cannot evade the consequences of evading reality.” — Ayn Rand

[AppyPappy]

Rather ironic that she chose to alienate people as a virtue signal

[mass55th]

Thank you so much!!

[mass55th]

"As one of my divorced women friends says, 'Now I live with a television. If I don't like what it's saying, I hit mute.'”

Simple solution that works, and the TV isn't going to argue with you.

[Wiser now]

It isn’t? For one year I drove another church member to her radiation appointments twice a week. She became a friend and I was devastated when she died.
I see other church members drive a pastor to shot appointments that make it impossible for him to drive home. I have had friends show up to help me care for two babies while a family member moved. While she was here she also cleaned out my freezer.
Church friends have brought us meals while one of us was recovering from surgery.
The list goes on.
God’s perfect plan is for everyone to be part of a church family so nobody goes to the er alone.

[stanne]

That’s what we do here. But do they expect it from you? It wouldn’t be joyful if so.

Is it your role? Would they whine if you didn’t show up? Do you expect them to help you?

My point is people need to set it up so they get taken care of. That means helping others.

[drSteve78]

Seriously, I’m

Going to be right there with you 😉

[drSteve78]

As they say, if you want to make God laugh, make plans.

And then on Thursday, I’m gonna …” HAHAHAHA”

I am so Blessed

[drSteve78]

. May God bless you in surprising ways in coming years, and may you accept any true blessings offered from those you meet as you age.

What an absolutely sweet thing to say!☘️

[drSteve78]

Truly, after the machinations of today, this was apt, even as said to another.