Posted on 02/26/2014 3:16:21 AM PST by 2ndDivisionVet
I disagree 365 times. Everyday should be Valentine’s day if you’re in love!
I’ve always wondered why so many ‘smart’ ‘modern’ women are compelled to actually marry men they can’t actually stand. Did she respect him before marriage? Probably not. Marry him anyways? How dumb was she?
Amen, brother. I've also found there is no statute of limitations on past transgressions I've committed, some going back as far as 30 years. I've learned to live with it...
But it's not. Kids get sick. They get bad grades and do stupid annoying things. Jobs get stressful. The Visa bill is more than you can pay. In other words, life gets in the way. Just like we all agree we should take some time out for gratitude on Thanksgiving, it's nice if we all take some time out to celebrate the one we love on Valentine's Day.
Nope, she didn’t respect him then, either, and he was just as much of a crybaby. She was abused in her previous marriage, and said she thought he would be a kind husband.
But she was a professional who didn’t need to jump into marriage or starve.
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When women are young, hot and still putting out the poontang on a regular basis men will put up with a lot. So women get the wrong impression. Around the age of 40 or so when the tang output goes way down and things are starting to sag and bellies get bigger, men lose their willingness to put up with “the bitch”. Once the kids are gone so are they. Sad.
When I moved to this town 3 years ago I quickly found out that the intelligent women that left town to go to college never came back. The economy is fairly depressed, all people do is drink and do bathsalts, every person in front of me in line at Walmart or the Grocery store has an EBT card... and it seems like everyone has “settled for Applebees”.
Church? Do you realize how snarky and cliques church is? I was pawned off on a nice church girl that was not what I would consider as anything but a friend.
I have a new plan though... buy a farm and nest build on my own. If some horsey girl shows up and wants to help me can everything from my garden, or decorate the home with her tschotskies... fine... but I doubt that will happen... it isn’t being a “nattering nabob of negativity”...it’s just the harsh reality of what seems to be out there in the real world of rural NW Pennsylvania.
Wow - good to hear your side of things. Getting a farm - great idea.
Actually, I have a vague memory of a website for women who want to meet farmers. It might be this one:
There are many single/farmer dating websites. Apparently women really like farmers. IIRC the Wall St. Journal had an article about a website for single farmers. Of couse they made it sound like *the* answer but the website sounded interesting.
And also eat, breath and walk. What’s your point?
Then the husband was like a purse or that really great car. Just some other life goal she had to achieve.
Sad for them both.
I’m very uncomfortable around those kinds of couples. I never really know what to talk about because it seems any subject gets turned around to make the husband look bad.
No. She didn’t see him as a goal, but rather a refuge.
He became starry-eyed over her looks, made himself a constant presence in her life, and literally begged her to marry him. Over and over. She gave in.
I wouldn’t want a man like that, and I wouldn’t want someone if I had to beg them to be with me.
“...a wife to unquestioningly accept and obey everything that a husband says...”
That’s not what I read in the Scripture. Christian obedience can be impossible for the woman who has a bad man picker. The husband is to live sacrificially for his wife, which would make it wrong for him to demand that his wife submit to him when he is out of line. This will only work for those, both the husbands and the wives, that submit first to the Lord. Tough times will come in a marriage relationship, but if the husband stops loving his wife, and stops living sacrificially for her whenever he is not enjoying the appropriate behavior of a good wife, how will they ever keep the marriage together? Likewise, if the wife will no longer submit to the leadership of her husband because she is disappointed in his behavior, how then will the marriage survive until he gets his head out of his rear?
If in his bad leadership he tells her, for example, to skip the house payment, it would be prudent for her to discuss with him the consequences of such foolishness. There is value in her opinion that he cannot overlook, and if he loves (because he has decided to, and promised to love, not that he feels that he is in love with) her, he will treat her unselfishly and do the right thing.
There is nothing in the words in MY Bible that tells the wife not to question, and I personally would doubt that God would be disappointed in the wife that did not perform a crime in submission to her husband, or do something filthy, or some other possibly sinful or disgusting action.
Preach it, sister!
I HATE TV sitcoms where the husband/father is treated like and acts like the bumbling moron who can't get anything right while the wives and children mock them and roll their eyes at them.
And it's treated like a big joke.
I HATE TV sitcoms where the husband/father is treated like and acts like the bumbling moron who can't get anything right while the wives and children mock them and roll their eyes at them.
And it's treated like a big joke."
Yep, and I'm not laughing.
I've seen this treatment of men in local commercials, too. There's one here for a salvage yard that will pay you for any old cars you have and tow them away. The commercial shows the man, a simple-minded bumbler, of course, dreaming about restoring the old wreck in the yard. His wife, with a tolerant-but-mildly-contemptuous air, informs him that will not be happening.
She calls the salvage people, and they give the husband some cash and tow the car. The wife snatches the money out of his hand and walks away, and he runs behind her, waving his arms like a child.
Can you imagine the fall out of the roles were reversed and it was the wife who wanted to do something and the husband said no and treated her like that with her chasing after him for the money he took from her?
Oh, my gosh....the squawking and screeching would reach to high heaven.
The man in the story should never have allowed that to continue happening, he should have spoke up when she contradicted him in public. He allowed himself to be put down. There is a point at which you stop being smilingly silent and ‘speak up’.
People DO want respect, but it has to be earned by both sides. Frankly, how you treat each other should have been established while dating. In my large circle of married couples I don’t know a single man who is a wimp!
To have a husband or a wife publicly put you down, it HURTS - it’s a “la-de-da” moment you don’t forget.
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