'You're just a guy I dated' -- will he get to see kids? (Illinois)

Chicago Sun-Times ^ | December 17, 2006 | Abdon M. Pallasch

[metmom]

"His name is Walter. He's just a guy I dated. Call him 'Walter.' Don't call him 'Da,' " Joncha corrected the girls, according to Klein.

Real nice lady. Just the kind that should be raising kids... Poor babies, saddled with that heartless, selfish female for a mother.

[caver]

I couldn't imagine having kids when I was over 50 years old.

[writmeister]

If Mr. Klein did not do a legal re-adoption in Illinois, then he has no legal grounds (please do not take this as approval of Ms. Joncha's conduct).

China does not permit an unmarried couple to apply to adopt children -- only married couples and singles may apply (and singles will not be allowed to apply after May 2007).

I suspect that Ms. Joncha is the applicant on the paperwork for both the Chinese government and the US Citizenship & Immigration Services. I further suspect that the only reference to Mr. Klein is in the homestudy since China requires information on all adults living in the home.

[DaiHuy]

I would be willing to bet if she wanted child support from this guy there would be no problem with calling him the adoptive father.

[silverleaf]

China is closing adoptions to single women?

If so then people like Ms Joncha are probably a big part of the reason China is closing off adoptions to single women. The acts of one selfish person can ripple across many lives.

[Old_Mil]

Two older children? didn't want to marry?

I get so sick of these "Do-Over Dads"--

From the sound of things, it would appear as if his instincts in not marrying the shrew were correct. It would also appear that your anger is unilaterally directed at do-over dads, and not do-over moms.

[Mamzelle]

Gee, how many moms of grown children in their fifties have kids because they couldn't be bothered to "have fun and do it right" the first time around? "Do-overs" are for failed fathers, not failed mothers. I know several do-over dads, and not a single do-over mom. They're the ones mistaken for grandfathers on the playgrounds.

Then, they get old and sick when their new kids are into their teens and don't get to finish the doing over. Both sets of kids get short-changed.

[beezdotcom]

From the sound of things, it would appear as if his instincts in not marrying the shrew were correct.

What a pity his instincts failed him in every OTHER component of 'how not to place children in a miserable situtation'...

[Old_Mil]

Gee, how many moms of grown children in their fifties have kids because they couldn't be bothered to "have fun and do it right" the first time around?

More than you might suspect. The woman cited in this article is just one example of the same.

[Mamzelle]

They might make the news--like the sixty-yr-old moms who get weird docs to get their burnt-out factories running again. But the do-over dad is everyday and banal.