[JayNorth]

Oh she was the co pilot so does that mean she was actually in charge of flying the actual pilot was a guy

That's not how it works. You have two qualified pilots, of which one is the Pilot In Command and the other is the Pilot Monitoring. The Captain and First Officer switch roles almost every flight so that their skills stay current. There are times where you require a certain rating to land at a difficult airport, as an example, where only the pilot with that rating would be the PIC.

Others have said it here, but I will say it again: There are plenty of very qualified female pilots in military, commercial and general aviation.

The question for me is the two pilots in the helicopter and how competent they were...assuming that they were the primary cause of this incident.

[Paul R.]

This guy really sticks this accident on the ATC:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRnk_ycXYQI

I disagree slightly, in that the chopper apparently was too high, but I can’t disagree that if the ATC was getting a “Conflict Alert”, ATC has to intervene aggressively, not ask “Do you see him?”.

Toward the end there the poster goes a bit tongue-in-cheek (pushes himself for head of the FAA), though his comment “with Trump, anything is possible” was a bit of comic relief.