His stubbornness is not surprising. Anyone here ever try to get a relative with dementia give up their car keys, have someone manage their finances, or suggest assisted living for them? They won’t agree and they get more stubborn as time progresses.
Anecdote time:
After one of my grandfathers died his wife (my grandmother) was living alone in a very large house.
My parents wanted to move her into an assisted living facility.
It was my father who got to take her to visit one and see if he could convince her to make the move.
They went to the facility and the employees gave them a tour.
My grandmother was very pleasant and charming—shook the hands of all the employees—and let them know what a great place they had.
My father and the employees were convinced they had made the “sale”.
After leaving the facility my grandmother waited until they were out of earshot of all of the assisted living employees.
She then gave my father a hard stare and said “over my dead body”.
:-)
P.S. A few years later her house burned down with her in it.
The fire department risked life and limb to rescue her. She did move in to the facility at that time.