Advice:
End the relationship immediately unless you are willing to go through a repeat over and over.
She does not respect your property.
How do I know?
I am married to the same problem. Looking for a book one day? Thrown out.
Looking for a certain shirt? Gone.
Looking for an award given to me? Gone.
Over and over for 50 years.
I have learned to live with it, but you will not. I have friends that restore old cars and that soon becomes a way of life. You will never forget or forgive the loss of that car.
Get rid of her.
“I am married to the same problem. Looking for a book one day? Thrown out.”
You’re a Saint, or at least a Martyr. I would not have stood for that even once. Not to mention all the other things.
Fifty years? I will avoid any quips about being out of jail by now...