I’m sorry for the loss of your friend.
In his vanity, HamiltonJay explicitly wrote: "Didn't know him well"
So, while your expression of condolence is not in itself objectionable, I think it clear that HamiltonJay viewed this vanity as a mere invitation to discuss the subject. It thus represents no breach of piety to pose pointed questions. (His subsequent post #98 confirms my assessment.)
Regards,