At this point, NO STATES are mailing ballots to anybody who has not submitted a BALLOT REQUEST.
It is true that in many states, a request for an absentee ballot will remove you from the rolls.
But when states are mailing ballot requests to all voters, they cannot possibly remove those voters from the voting rolls, because they have no indication the voters are going to request actual ballots.
SO I think this story is largely false. But if you want to vote in person, DO NOT RETURN A BALLOT REQUEST.
And if you get an actual ballot, I recommend you fill it out, mail it back. Then show up on election day anyway. If you are on the rolls, it means they didn’t get your ballot, and you should vote. If you are NOT on the rolls, it means they think you got a ballot to mail in. You should then vote provisionally. In most states, you would record why you are voting provisionally, say that you do not think an absentee ballot was voted by you.
They will then check the absentee voter rolls. If they ahve your absentee ballot, they will discard your provisional. If they don’t have your absentee ballot, they will count the provisional. If there is a close election in your district or state, the republican party will sue to get republican provisionals counted, so you should not have to take any more action.
Sorry, Murphy has ordered with dem controlled House and Senate that registered voters in NJ receive a mail in ballot. They are sending them out Oct 5th.