First thing to remember is a civil war would probably involve less than 5% of the population. Second is that the types you describe will have no interest in any type of self sacrifice so they won’t be involved. Nearly every single young man I know is very proficient with a firearm.
Progressive commie liberal higher learning ivory wall types that would like to control the people not so much.
To consider with some degree of reality what civil upheaval in this country would actually look like would be an eye opener for most people.
...unlike so many sons of our 'leading' families who stepped right up into combat in the last conflicts: Burr, Romney, Trump, Cuomo, Feinstein, etc.